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Storms

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  Not every storm is outside of you. Sometimes it’s inside. God tearing at the walls you built, shaking loose the peace you’ve been resisting. It feels like ruin, but it’s release. The thunder isn’t against you, it’s against the chains you wouldn’t let go.

Rock Bottom

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“I didn’t fall apart all at once. It was quiet. A slow erosion of fire. Smiles that didn’t reach. Words that weren’t mine. Promises I made to myself but broke by morning. That’s the thing about losing yourself—you don’t even notice until there’s nothing left to lose.”   The Quiet Kind of Collapse Most people talk about rock bottom like it’s a crash. But sometimes it’s a slow fade—the kind of unraveling that fools even you. No sirens. No blood. Just this strange numbness that becomes your new normal. And that’s the scariest kind of broken. Because when you’re falling apart out loud, someone might notice. But when you’re hurting in silence? You can rot behind a smile and still get praised for being strong. This is the kind of loss that wears your skin, walks your walk, and pretends it’s you—until even you start believing the act. You look in the mirror and see someone who kind of looks like you, kind of sounds like you, but feels hollow. That’s what rock bottom can look like. Not dra...

Don't Waste The Suffering

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Some people survive their suffering and try to scrub it clean. Make it quiet. Tuck it away in apology and pastel language. But you—if you’re here—you’re not meant to soften it. You’re meant to mine it. There’s gold in the grit, but only if you’re willing to get your hands dirty. Only if you stop asking, “Why did this happen to me?” and start asking, “What does this uncover in me?” Because pain, when you let it speak, doesn’t just hurt—it reveals. It carves out space for what’s real to rise. You don’t have to romanticize the wreckage—but don’t walk out of the fire empty-handed either. Because suffering, when ignored, becomes rot. But suffering, when honored, becomes fuel. And most of the world wants you to move on, not through. To bounce back instead of build back. But you know better. You’ve got wounds that didn’t just break you—they shaped you. The ache isn’t the enemy. The denial of it is. So don’t waste the nights you cried in secret, the days you felt like a ghost in your own s...

Price Of Admission

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Pain’s the price of admission, not a punishment. You’ll pay either way—might as well learn something through the hurting. Just make sure it buys you something worth keeping. Some pain doesn’t start with you—but it sure as hell tries to end with you. Family pain has a way of sneaking in quiet, like background static you were raised in. You don’t even realize you’re carrying it until you’re halfway through a reaction that doesn’t match the moment. The shame, the silence, the addiction, the anger—they get passed down like heirlooms. Generational ghosts dressed up as personality traits. But just because it ran in the family doesn’t mean it gets to run you. We like to think pain is optional—something we can sidestep if we just behave well enough, plan smart enough, or play by the rules. But pain doesn’t negotiate. It shows up whether you’ve earned it or not, and it collects its toll on your heart, your body, your belief in yourself. And when you’ve inherited pain that wasn’t even yours to b...

When The Day Comes

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  "A King may move a man, a father may claim a son, but remember that even when those who move you be Kings, or men of power, your soul is in your keeping alone. When you stand before God, you cannot say, 'But I was told by others to do thus.'Or that, 'Virtue was not convenient at the time.'This will not suffice. Remember that." - from the movie “Kingdom of When the day comes—and it will—when the mirror stops lying and the noise finally dies, you’ll stand stripped of excuses. No title will speak for you. No man will take the weight. God won’t ask who moved you. He’ll ask if you ever questioned the direction. If you ever stopped mid-step to ask: Does this feel like mine? You don’t get to borrow conviction. You either carry it or you don’t. And when you answer for the life you lived—make sure the voice that speaks sounds like your own.

No More Amends

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  I used to think strength was in apologizing — in rushing to smooth over the wreckage, in forgiving before the dust even settled. I thought it made me noble. Truth is, it made me weak. Every unnecessary apology was a quiet confession that my pain didn’t matter, that my boundaries were for sale. Every premature forgiveness was me handing the knife back to the same hands that cut me. Learning not to apologize for existing was the first time I felt real control. Refusing to forgive people who weren’t sorry — who would burn me again the second I got close — wasn’t bitterness, it was survival. Addiction fed on my guilt and my need to be liked. Sobriety fed on my refusal to give either away. There’s a freedom in not apologizing for being here. There’s a clarity in not forgiving what was done to you just so the room feels more comfortable. I’m not here to make peace with everyone. I’m here to protect the part of me that almost didn’t survive. Some bridges need to stay burned. Some locks ...

What's Still Broken

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  People talk about “managing” emotions like they’re wild dogs you keep chained in the yard, only letting them out when they’re quiet enough not to bother the neighbors. That’s not regulation — that’s fear. The truth is, emotions aren’t the enemy. They’re the smoke curling up from the fire you haven’t put out yet. Fear, anger, grief — they’re not there to destroy you, they’re there to point you toward what’s still broken, what’s still unfinished, what’s still bleeding in the dark. You can numb them, ignore them, or drown them, but they’ll keep coming back until you learn the messages they bring.

The War

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  I used to think change came with some big, defining moment — a grand victory — or that failing came with some catastrophic collapse you could see coming from miles away. In reality, it’s the small, almost unseen moments that decide who you will become. Regret isn’t always about what we’ve done—it’s about what we failed to do. Every choice, every behavior, every breath is a swing of the blade toward one side or the other. The war isn’t somewhere out there; it’s in me, in the split‑second decisions no one sees, in the whispers I choose to listen to or turn away from.

Erasure

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I didn’t drink to feel better—I drank to feel less. To carve out a void where my fears couldn’t reach me, to build a bunker brick by brick between me and the world. It wasn’t escape; it was erasure—a slow dismantling of the parts that hurt, and the parts that still hoped. In the stillness, the whispers grew louder. Each swallow sanded down my edges until I barely recognized the shape of me. And when I buried my pain, I buried myself beside it.    Workbook

A Manufactured Struggle

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Real work doesn’t happen in meetings. It doesn’t happen in programs. It happens in moments—small, unremarkable choices that no one else sees. Standing alone in a parking lot, deciding whether to walk into a liquor store or keep driving. Sitting in the quiet of my own mind and not reaching for a distraction. The quiet, personal decisions. Yet for some reason, we’ve turned sobriety into an obstacle course—a process so overburdened with requirements that it feels impossible before you even begin. The alternative to using isn’t complicated. It’s not drinking. It sounds simple. But the moment you decide to stop, the world makes sure you don’t feel capable of doing it on your own. You can pick up a beer whenever you want—no questions asked. But the moment you want to put it down? Suddenly, everyone has a prescription for how you should do it. Call yourself an alcoholic. Admit you’re powerless. Commit to a program. Follow the steps. Surrender to the process. The more rules they handed me, the...

Comfort In The Chaos

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“As a child, it wasn’t the loud moments of conflict that scared me most; it was the silence that followed. The shouting, the slammed doors, the angry words were chaotic, but at least they were predictable. In the noise, I knew where I stood. I could brace myself and anticipate the next move. But the silence afterward? That was different. It was thick with unspoken tension, like the calm before another storm. Chaos, for all its turmoil, had a rhythm I could follow. Silence, on the other hand, stripped away any sense of control, leaving me alone with my thoughts. Over time, I learned to find comfort in the chaos, and it gave me something to hold onto and brace against. Silence never offered that.” - 2bits The survival instinct of a child’s nervous system is all about learning to adapt. Chaos, as painful as it is, can feel safer because it’s known—it gives you something to anticipate, something your body can prepare for. Silence, though, is unpredictable. It forces you inward, face-to-fac...

Shame

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Shame doesn’t just shape your thoughts—it rewires your nervous system. It doesn’t live in your head alone; it burrows into your body, tampering with your baseline functioning. You might think you’re just overthinking or shutting down, but it’s your system bracing for judgment before a word even leaves your mouth.  Shame trains the brain to anticipate rejection, so your choices start revolving around who’s safest to be around, not what’s most true to you. It hijacks your prefrontal cortex—the part of your brain that helps with clear thinking, planning, and regulation—and pulls you into survival patterns: fawning, freezing, appeasing. Over time, the words you never said, the truth you swallowed, the reactions you held back—they don’t disappear. They get stored in muscle tension, gut issues, migraines, and tight chests. You don’t just lose your voice—you carry its echo in your body. And when that shame goes unspoken long enough, it becomes the lens through which you see yourself: brok...

The Mighty Unicorn

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The Body Remembers What the Soul Wasn’t Allowed to Say

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Some days, the pain is sharper than memory. You bend, reach, move just slightly wrong—and there it is: the ache. The throb. The burn beneath the skin or inside the joints. It shows up without ceremony, like a ghost you’ve learned to tolerate, not fight. But here’s the thing no one talks about: sometimes, that pain feels weirdly functional. Almost like it’s doing something important. Not good, not pleasant—but vital. Like it’s carrying a message the psyche couldn’t hold without cracking. Because when you’re the kid who had to swallow what should have been screamed, when you were taught early to tuck your instincts behind your teeth and wear “I’m fine” like armor, your pain doesn’t just disappear. It relocates. What couldn’t be expressed verbally, gets encrypted into flesh. What couldn’t be named emotionally, gets stored in the joints, the gut, the nervous system’s circuitry. That’s not dysfunction. That’s survival. And in a world where your soul wasn’t allowed to protest, your body did ...

Twisted to survive, not thrive

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There’s a kind of damage that doesn’t just hurt — it takes pieces of you with it. When life has stripped you, betrayed you, or left you crawling through the wreckage, it’s not just the bruises or the memories you’re left to heal from. It’s the theft of your soul. Trauma, addiction, betrayal — they don’t just wound, they steal. They take your trust, your joy, your sense of safety in your own skin. And this is especially devastating when the very people who were supposed to protect you — parents, family, the ones you were told you could trust without question — are the ones who brought the dysfunction, neglect, or harm. A soul lost in that kind of betrayal is harder to reclaim because it isn’t just safety that’s been taken; it’s the blueprint for safety itself. The hands that should have caught you were the ones that dropped you, and that rewrites something deep in your bones. When the roots are poisoned, the branches grow in strange, protective ways — twisted to survive, not to thrive. ...

Jekyll and Hyde

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 I saw the face behind my eyes, a stranger's skin, familiar lies.  In the depths of my drinking, it felt like something inside me would snap without warning. One moment, I was calm, even in control, and the next, it was as if a stranger had hijacked my thoughts and emotions.  The changes weren't gradual or subtle they were sudden and jarring, like being yanked from my own body and replaced by something unrecognizable. Those closest to me saw it, too, their reactions shifting from confusion to outright fear. My bizarre thoughts and unpredictable emotions surfaced without warning, sending a chill through the room before I even understood what I had done.  At one point, they were so disturbed by what they saw that they even suggested performing an exorcism to rid me of whatever was overtaking me. I wanted to tell them they were wrong, but deep down, I wasn't sure they were. Growing up Catholic, the idea of an exorcism wasn't as far-fetched as it might sound to others. T...

“Shhhhh…”

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  In the first days, when the breath of God still hung fresh upon the void, light poured forth and named the world good. But the dark watched in envy, its hunger growing beneath the veil of shadow. It longed not to rule the heavens, but to touch the souls who would walk the earth — to leave in them a trace of its own quiet power. And the Almighty, who knew that choice gives birth to strength, decreed that the dark should have but one move. One gesture to stake its claim. So God allowed Satan one act before we were born. And he chose the simplest, most lasting sign — pressing his finger to our upper lip, leaving the small indent as his mark. Then he whispered: “shhh.”  Don’t speak. Don’t tell. Don’t. It is the quiet scar we all carry — a reminder that life will test you, silence you, and demand you choose whether to stay hushed or to speak anyway. https://open.substack.com/pub/timmy2bits/p/the-philtrum?r=5yul19&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=fal...

Rebuilding After the Ruin

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FO U N D AT I ON: LE AR N I N G T O EX I S T WI TH OU T T H E CHA O S Nobody talks about the identity crisis of healing. You spent years being the person who drank, the one who numbed, the one who disappeared when it got too hard. That identity was more than just addiction—it was your structure, your ritual, your way of moving through the world. You knew how to exist inside destruction. You knew how to build your life around the next escape. And now? Now that the crutch is gone—who the hell are you supposed to be? There’s a misconception that once you remove the addiction, life will naturally rearrange itself into something whole. But addiction wasn’t just a habit—it was a framework. It dictated your relationships, your choices, the way you coped, the way you existed. Without it, there is no automatic reset. There is just the blank space where it used to be. The hardest part of stopping isn’t stopping—it’s waking up the next day and realizing you don’t know how to live inside the q...

Breaking the Cycle of Negative Thinking: A Guide to Overcoming ANTs

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Breaking the Cycle of Negative Thinking: A Guide to Overcoming ANTs What Are ANTs? ANTs, a concept popularized by Dr. Daniel Amen, are the automatic, negative thoughts that creep into your mind, often during moments of stress or self-doubt. These thoughts can take many forms, such as believing you’ll never be good enough, catastrophizing a small mistake, or assuming others view you negatively. Negative thoughts can feel particularly overwhelming because they feed into emotional sensitivity and a tendency to overanalyze situations. When these patterns of self-criticism or regret take hold, it can feel like you’re trapped in a loop of self-defeating thoughts. Stress and negative emotions can amplify this loop, making it even harder to let go of these thought patterns. For some, these thoughts may even feel engaging because the brain becomes hooked on replaying past mistakes or dwelling on potential future problems. The Role of Dopamine in Negative Thinking These negative thoughts, while ...

The Blade of the Storm

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There's a storm inside me, ravenous, unyielding, tearing through marrow and bone. It howls my name, shaking the walls of a house already crumbling. No light reaches here. No sound but the crash of waves, the gnash of despair against the cliffs of my soul. I reach for the blade like a lover, its cold kiss a promise, its edge a choir of sirens. "Let me free you," it sings, and I listen because nothing else will. The sting is a hymn; it drowns the storm for a moment, but the silence never lasts. Each etch I draw, a map- a desperate attempt to chart what cannot be spoken, what cannot be seen. But the ink runs red, and the map leads nowhere but back to places where the wreckage began. I sink deeper, my hands shaking, my breath heavy with the weight of shadows. I think, maybe this is all I am: a body breaking under its own weight, a canvas for pain, a vessel for despair. But then— a flicker, faint as a candle's breath. A whisper rises, not from the blade, but from somewhere...

The Dream

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For so long, I thought the moments of light were illusions—temporary escapes from a reality I couldn’t face. But as I stood in the clarity of my own truth, I realized the dream was never the lie. It was the fear of believing in it that kept me trapped.

The Graveyard

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The graveyard holds the silent echoes of unfulfilled potential—the wealth of dreams that never saw the light of day, brilliance that never broke the surface. It’s not the world’s banks or towering skylines that house the most untapped riches. It’s the rows of headstones, the cold ground beneath them, cradling forgotten ideas and ambitions that perished in the hearts of those too afraid to act. In the graveyard lies the unwritten novel that could have changed the way we see the world. There’s a melody buried that might have stirred souls for generations. The blueprint for an innovation that could have redefined entire industries lies dormant, sealed away by doubt. The graveyard is heavy with the weight of what could have been—but never was. But here you are. Still breathing. Still standing. The soil beneath your feet is not yet ready to take you. That gnawing fear, the one that convinces you it’s safer to stay quiet, to keep your ideas tucked away—it's a lie that feeds the graveyard...