Comfort In The Chaos
“As a child, it wasn’t the loud moments of conflict that scared me most; it was the silence that followed. The shouting, the slammed doors, the angry words were chaotic, but at least they were predictable. In the noise, I knew where I stood. I could brace myself and anticipate the next move. But the silence afterward? That was different. It was thick with unspoken tension, like the calm before another storm. Chaos, for all its turmoil, had a rhythm I could follow. Silence, on the other hand, stripped away any sense of control, leaving me alone with my thoughts. Over time, I learned to find comfort in the chaos, and it gave me something to hold onto and brace against. Silence never offered that.” - 2bits
The survival instinct of a child’s nervous system is all about learning to adapt. Chaos, as painful as it is, can feel safer because it’s known—it gives you something to anticipate, something your body can prepare for. Silence, though, is unpredictable. It forces you inward, face-to-face with the dread of not knowing what comes next. That’s why so many of us grow up equating stillness with danger and movement with safety. We learn to find comfort in chaos because at least chaos has rules, a rhythm, a pattern. But silence? Silence makes you sit with yourself—and for a child who already carries fear and self-doubt, that can feel unbearable.
